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When it comes to dating exceptionally attractive women, your mindset is crucial. Many men struggle in this area not because of their looks or status, but because of how they perceive themselves and these women.
Stop Putting Them on a Pedestal
One of the biggest mistakes men make is treating very attractive women differently than they would other women. They put these women on a pedestal, which creates several problems:
- It makes you nervous and less likely to approach
- You take fewer social risks and play it too safe
- You're afraid to escalate the interaction
- The woman loses interest due to lack of challenge
Instead, aim to treat a highly attractive woman the same way you would treat any other woman you're interested in. Don't let her looks intimidate you or cause you to act differently.
Believe You Are Worthy
Many men see an exceptionally attractive woman and immediately think "There's no way I could ever get her" or "She's too hot for me." This type of negative self-talk becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The reality is, you have no idea if you're compatible with someone based solely on their looks. By assuming you're not worthy, you sabotage yourself before even giving it a chance.
Work on building genuine self-confidence and believing that you have value to offer in a relationship, regardless of a woman's appearance. This confident energy is magnetic and attractive.
Have Standards Beyond Looks
While physical attraction is important, it shouldn't be the only factor you consider. Having standards and preferences beyond just appearance will help you in several ways:
- It eases nerves because you're evaluating compatibility, not just looks
- It prevents you from overlooking red flags due to beauty
- It positions you as the selector, not just a pursuer
- It leads to more fulfilling connections beyond surface-level attraction
Remember that an attractive appearance doesn't necessarily correlate with personality, values, or relationship compatibility. Focus on finding someone you click with on multiple levels.
Approaching and Interacting
Once you have the right mindset, it's time to focus on how to actually approach and interact with highly attractive women.
Be Normal and Authentic
Many men feel pressure to be extremely witty, charismatic, or "on" when talking to very attractive women. However, this often backfires and comes across as try-hard or inauthentic.
Instead, focus on being normal, relaxed, and authentically yourself. Some key points:
- Don't use cheesy pickup lines or routines
- It's okay if there are some awkward moments - that's normal when meeting someone new
- You don't need to be a comedian or entertainer
- Let the conversation flow naturally rather than forcing it
Being comfortable in your own skin is far more attractive than putting on an act.
Make Your Intentions Clear
Don't hide the fact that you're interested in her romantically/sexually. Many men play it too safe and end up in the friend zone. While you don't need to be overly aggressive, find ways to subtly communicate your interest:
- Light flirting and teasing
- Asking her out on a proper date
- Complimenting her in a genuine way (but don't overdo it)
- Using touch appropriately as things progress
Being direct about your intentions shows confidence. Even if she's not interested, she'll likely respect your boldness.
Focus on Making a Connection
Rather than being overly focused on her looks, aim to actually get to know her as a person. Ask thoughtful questions about:
- Her passions and interests
- Her goals and ambitions
- Her views on various topics
- Her background and experiences
Really listen to her responses and look for commonalities and things you connect on. Building rapport and an emotional connection is key.
Don't Overcompensate
Some men feel the need to impress very attractive women by bragging, name dropping, or talking about money/status. This usually comes across as insecure and try-hard.
Instead, let your positive qualities come out naturally through conversation. Focus on being genuinely interested in her rather than trying to sell yourself.
Following Up and Persistence
Many men give up too easily when pursuing highly attractive women. Here are some tips for effective follow-up:
Be Willing to Follow Up Multiple Times
Don't assume that one unanswered text means she's not interested. Attractive women often have busy lives and many options. Following up shows you're genuinely interested. Some guidelines:
- Wait a few days between follow-ups
- Keep the tone light and casual
- Suggest specific plans rather than just "we should hang out"
- If you don't hear back after 2-3 attempts, move on
Persistence Without Pressure
There's a fine line between persistence and pestering. The key is to follow up without seeming desperate or pushy. Some ways to do this:
- Space out your contact attempts
- Have a reason for reaching out (e.g. inviting her to an event)
- Keep things brief and upbeat
- If she says she's busy, say "No problem, let me know when your schedule frees up"
Be Outcome Independent
While you should put in effort, don't become overly invested in the outcome with any one woman. Keep your options open and continue meeting other people. This outcome independence is attractive and prevents you from seeming needy.
Where to Meet Highly Attractive Women
While you can find attractive women anywhere, some places tend to have higher concentrations:
Social Circle
Expanding your social network is one of the best ways to meet attractive women. Benefits include:
- Built-in social proof
- Multiple chances to interact in low-pressure settings
- Ability to showcase your personality over time
Focus on pursuing your interests and making friends. The romantic connections will often follow naturally.
Cold Approach
Approaching women during the day (day game) can be very effective for meeting attractive women who may not be on dating apps. Good spots include:
- Coffee shops
- Parks
- Shopping areas
- College campuses
- Fitness classes
The key is being confident, friendly, and socially calibrated with your approaches.
While more challenging than in-person, Instagram can be a good way to connect with attractive women if you have a strong profile. Focus on:
- Having high-quality photos that showcase your lifestyle
- Building a decent following
- Engaging genuinely with her content before reaching out
Dating Apps
While not all attractive women use dating apps, you can still find them there. Your best bets are:
- Bumble
- Hinge
- The League
Focus on having excellent photos, an intriguing bio, and strong messaging skills to stand out.
Developing Yourself
Ultimately, your success with highly attractive women comes down to what you bring to the table. Focus on constant self-improvement:
Physical Fitness
While you don't need to look like a fitness model, being in good shape shows you take care of yourself. Regular exercise also boosts confidence and energy.
Fashion
Develop a style that makes you feel confident and attractive. Well-fitting clothes appropriate for the setting go a long way.
Career/Finances
Pursue work you're passionate about and manage your finances responsibly. Ambition and stability are attractive qualities.
Social Skills
Constantly work on improving your conversation skills, emotional intelligence, and ability to connect with others.
Interesting Lifestyle
Pursue hobbies and experiences that excite you. This makes you more interesting and gives you things to talk about.
Confidence and Self-Esteem
Continuously work on loving yourself and believing in your own worth. True confidence is incredibly attractive.
Conclusion
Dating highly attractive women doesn't require you to be rich, famous, or look like a model. With the right mindset, approach, and continual self-improvement, you can absolutely succeed in this area.
Remember that at the end of the day, even the most attractive women are still human. They have insecurities, want to feel special, and are looking for genuine connections just like everyone else.
Focus on bringing your authentic self to the table, making real connections, and not being overly fazed by physical beauty. With practice and persistence, you may find that dating "out of your league" becomes your new normal.
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