The Holy Power of Wife: Embracing the Virgin Queen

In today's evolving world, the role and energy of 'wife' is transforming. We are entering a new era of feminine energetics, bringing fresh perspectives to partnerships and marriage. This shift calls for a reimagining of what it means to be a wife - one that honors both individual sovereignty and deep intimacy.

The concept of the 'Virgin Queen' offers a powerful template for this new expression of wife energy. It integrates seemingly opposing archetypes - the independent, powerful Lilith and the partnered, nurturing Eve. By embracing both, women can step into a more whole and empowered version of wifehood.

The Descent of Inanna: A Template for Transformation

The ancient Sumerian myth of Inanna's descent provides a useful framework for understanding this evolution of the wife archetype. In the story, the goddess Inanna descends into the underworld, shedding her royal garments and adornments at each of seven gates. She arrives naked and is hung on a meat hook, enduring a symbolic death before being reborn and ascending once again.

This myth mirrors the journey many women go through in reclaiming and redefining their role as wife. It requires stripping away outdated beliefs, expectations and identities. Only by releasing these can we discover our true, naked essence as women and partners.

The key difference is that while Inanna's descent involved losing her power, our modern descent as women involves claiming our power. We are reverse engineering the process - descending into our bodies and humanity to activate our dormant feminine potency.

Breaking Taboos Around Submission and Power

One of the first taboos we must break is around the concept of submission in marriage. Many spiritual teachings emphasize wifely submission to God and husband. However, true submission can only come from a place of sovereignty.

A woman must first be in submission to herself - aligned with her own truth, desires and choices. Only then can she freely choose to submit to a higher power or partner. Forced or fear-based submission is not genuine.

This brings us to another taboo - feminine power. Some teachings claim women should not seek or hold power, that it belongs only to men. This denies the innate potency and leadership capacities of the feminine.

The Virgin Queen archetype recognizes that feminine power has a different quality than masculine power, but is equally vital. She owns her power and brings it in service of the relationship, not in competition with her partner.

Pleasure in Being Wife

Another taboo is finding genuine pleasure and fulfillment in the role of wife. Feminist perspectives sometimes frame wifehood as giving up power or freedom. Traditional views can make it seem boring or limiting.

Yet for women who truly desire partnership, being a wife can be deeply pleasurable and meaningful. There is joy in choosing to bond with a beloved, in co-creating a life together, in the intimacy of truly knowing and being known by another.

The key is that it must be a free choice, not an obligation or expectation. The Virgin Queen chooses marriage as a privilege, not a bind. She delights in loving and creating with her partner.

Evolving Beyond Sexual Eroticism

Many modern teachings on marriage focus heavily on maintaining sexual polarity and eroticism. While these are important aspects, a truly intimate marriage evolves beyond just sexual connection.

The Virgin Queen cultivates erotic longevity - a deep, abiding passion and intimacy that encompasses all aspects of the relationship. This includes emotional intimacy, intellectual connection, shared purpose, and spiritual union.

Sex remains an important part of the bond, but is not the sole focus. The relationship has many dimensions of intimacy and creative partnership.

Becoming Stewards of the Marriage

A key shift in perspective is seeing marriage as a living entity that both partners steward together. Rather than the wife submitting to the husband's leadership, both tend to the 'garden' of their relationship.

This requires each partner to take full responsibility for nurturing the bond. It's not about compromising yourself to keep the peace. Rather, it's about showing up fully and authentically, even when it feels vulnerable.

The Virgin Queen and her partner become 'evolutionary forefathers and foremothers' - anchoring new relationship energies on the planet through their union. Their marriage becomes a vehicle for mutual growth and creative expression.

The Holy Vow: Choosing Partnership

Central to this new paradigm of wife is the concept of the holy vow. This is not just about a legal marriage contract. It is a sacred agreement and energetic commitment.

Critically, the first vow is between a woman and herself. She chooses to fully inhabit her feminine power and to open herself to deep partnership. The second vow is to her own divinity or higher power. Only then does she make a vow to her chosen partner.

This order ensures she is coming from a place of wholeness and sovereignty. She is not looking to her partner to complete her or give her worth. Rather, she is choosing to join her wholeness with his to create something greater.

The holy vow creates a container for evolutionary creation. It allows both partners to merge their energies while maintaining their individual essence. This union becomes a channel for birthing new life energies on the planet.

Integrating Lilith and Eve

The Virgin Queen archetype integrates two seemingly opposing feminine energies - Lilith and Eve.

Lilith represents the independent, rebellious goddess who refuses to be bound by relationship. She wears her own crown and answers to no one. Lilith carries intense sexual power and initiates taboo expressions of the feminine.

Eve represents the partnered feminine designed for relationship. She gives her love, sexuality and life force in devotion to her chosen mate. Eve carries the purity and innocence of the virgin.

Rather than choosing one or the other, the Virgin Queen embodies both. She maintains her sovereignty and wild nature while also opening to deep intimacy and partnership. She is both holy whore and devoted wife.

Crowning the Queen

The process of becoming the Virgin Queen involves a symbolic crowning or anointing. This represents a woman claiming her power and choosing to enter sacred partnership.

It is not about being crowned by a man or external authority. Rather, it is self-initiation - recognizing and celebrating her own arrival into mature feminine power.

The crowning acknowledges a woman's sovereign choice to become a wife and enter bonded union. She chooses freely and intentionally, not out of obligation or expectation.

This inner crowning allows her to then fully inhabit the role of queen in her marriage. She brings her full power, creativity and love in service of the relationship.

Practical Steps for Embodying the Virgin Queen

For women seeking to embody this new archetype of wife, here are some practical steps:

1. Cultivate deep self-love and acceptance. Heal any wounds around your worth and lovability.

2. Get clear on your true desires around partnership. Release any shoulds or expectations.

3. Develop your own sovereign power and leadership. Don't abdicate your authority.

4. Practice radical honesty and transparency with yourself and your partner.

5. Choose your partner consciously and continue choosing them every day.

6. Bring your full creative life force to the relationship. Don't hold back.

7. See your marriage as a living entity to nurture together.

8. Cultivate intimacy in all areas - emotional, sexual, intellectual, spiritual.

9. Be willing to face your shadows and grow together.

10. Celebrate the unique magic you create together.

Conclusion

The archetype of the Virgin Queen offers a powerful new template for being a wife in the modern era. It allows women to maintain their sovereignty and wild nature while also opening to deep intimacy and partnership.

By integrating the energies of both Lilith and Eve, women can embody a more whole expression of the feminine. This creates the foundation for truly conscious, co-creative marriages.

As more women step into this empowered wife energy, it has the potential to transform not just individual relationships, but the entire paradigm of marriage. The Virgin Queen and her chosen partner become channels for anchoring new relationship frequencies on the planet.

This evolution of the wife archetype is not about perfection, but about showing up authentically and choosing partnership as a vehicle for mutual growth and creative expression. It's a journey of continually deepening into love, power and intimacy.

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