Embracing Natural Gifts: The Path to Fulfilling and Deliberate Living

Letting Go of Force: Embracing Your Natural Gifts

In our journey through life, we often find ourselves pushing, striving, and forcing our way towards what we believe we want. However, there's a profound truth that many of us overlook: the less we try to force our way through life, the more apparent our natural skills and gifts become. This realization can lead to a more satisfying life experience.

If you've found your way to this article, it's likely because you're ready for a change. You're prepared to stop pushing, to cease trying to force life to turn out a certain way, and instead, you're eager to live in a fulfilling, deliberate manner - whatever that means for you.

The Shift from Force to Flow

Many of us have lived in a way that feels force-based. We've had to convince ourselves to be or show up in certain ways to get the things we think we want. But what if there was another way? What if we could tune into what we truly want, focusing on the current step or place that gives our body, mind, and spirit a sense of natural ease?

This is what it means to be a deliberate creator at play - someone who can inspire magic in their own life and experience the realities they want without necessarily having to build a certain amount of stuff or have a specific amount of money first.

The Power of the Present Moment

Wherever you find yourself right now contains within it the seed, the essence, the resource of all you need to take the next deliberate step. And then the next, and the next, with the kind of empowerment and satisfaction you most desire.

While we can't claim to know everything about your specific life circumstances, if you're reading this, you likely have within and around you everything you need to make an empowering step in your life.

Acknowledging Your Experiences

It's important to acknowledge all the challenges, trials, and tribulations you've faced in your life. These experiences have shaped you and brought you to where you are today. However, for the moment, we invite you to set these aside briefly. Take a deep breath, and on the exhale, imagine putting all those experiences in a package and setting them aside. We'll come back to them later, but for now, give yourself the gift of clarity.

The Purpose of Our Stories

Every story and experience we have in our life serves a purpose. Even the most intense ones, on some level of awareness, we thought would be of service to ourselves. This applies to both the really low lows and the really high highs. When we give ourselves permission to experience one extreme, we also expand our capacity to experience the other.

Breaking the Cycle of Perpetuated Stories

If you're ready to complete a certain cycle or perpetuated story in your life, this section may be particularly helpful. Often, our energy congregates around attempting to resolve challenges until we learn to work with our energy in ways that apply the primary focus towards what excites us.

The Formula for Perpetuation or Change

Here's a simple formula: anything you want to perpetuate in your life, give it your focus and attention. Whatever we focus on is what we amplify in our world. However, if you want something to truly shift in your reality - not from a place of ignoring or running away from it, but from a place of genuine change - here's what you can do:

1. Give it the precise amount of energy and focus needed for you to be aware of it.
2. Make a new choice based on that awareness.

Dealing with Challenges: A New Approach

Let's say you're facing a challenge with another person. Here's a step-by-step approach to dealing with it:

1. Acknowledge your feelings: Don't attempt to override or judge them. Give yourself permission to feel honestly about the situation.

2. Observe your thoughts: Notice how much you're placing your feelings towards the other person. Are you assigning blame or anger?

3. Thank yourself: Once you've observed your feelings, thank yourself for being honest and open.

4. Explore the root: Ask yourself why this situation inspired such feelings in you. What part of this is important to you?

5. Look inward: Remember, any external response that triggers something within you has to do with a system or pattern within yourself, not the other person.

The Power of Self-Reflection

By focusing on what's within ourselves, we gain a clear pattern or mapping as to why we had a conflict with this person or situation to begin with. As we transmute these patterns within ourselves, we become less reactive to similar stimuli in the future.

This process allows us to be present with an experience instead of being reactive to it. Through our own inner exploration, we transmute patterning and start finding ourselves in entirely different situations - not because these situations don't exist universally anymore, but because we don't connect, focus, and engage with them in the same way.

Observation Without Entanglement

Observation without entanglement is empowerment. It's the ability to stand within yourself regardless of what happens in the world, without needing the entire world to change for you to be stable within yourself. This stability allows you to be a transforming agent in the world you interact with.

Coming Home to Ourselves

In essence, we are all coming home to ourselves. Every single one of us is built for this type of empowerment. The less we give our energy to trying to fix the outer world one problem at a time, and the more we receive information from a place of curiosity and presence, the more energy we have to place towards the experiences and people we really want to amplify in our lives.

Reclaiming Your Power

Now, let's return to that package of experiences we set aside earlier. This is your opportunity to explore these stories and experiences from a new perspective. Remember, we're not condoning or attacking any situations or people involved. The most important part here is you - your feelings, your responses. These are the things you have power over.

By being aware of these, being honest with yourself, being curious, and being there for yourself, you will naturally disentangle from these situations. A byproduct of this process is discernment - the ability to see something without being completely embroiled in it.

The Gift of Discernment

Discernment allows you to choose between situations, experiences, people, and opportunities that are a yes or a no for you from a place of inner empowerment. It enables you to be the reality creator you are, dreaming up the amazing experience that is your life.

Steps Towards Empowerment

As you evaluate your experiences, follow these steps:

1. Be honest with yourself.
2. Observe any time you point outside of yourself.
3. Ask yourself what this is triggering in you.
4. Identify what beliefs you're holding onto that make you feel disempowered.
5. Look for opportunities to reclaim and reconnect with your inner power.

Remember, anytime we act from disempowerment, we are perpetuating an outdated belief from childhood, the subconscious mind, or some part of ourselves that we can learn to love and integrate.

The Power Within

As we integrate these parts of ourselves, we remember that no matter what comes into our lives, we always have the power of focus, flexibility, humor, and curiosity. Nothing is truly greater than our spirit and our being.

Embracing Your Natural Gifts: A Practical Guide

Now that we've explored the concept of embracing our natural gifts and living deliberately, let's dive into some practical steps you can take to implement these ideas in your daily life.

1. Identify Your Natural Gifts

The first step in embracing your natural gifts is to identify them. Often, we're so caught up in what we think we should be good at that we overlook our innate talents. Here are some ways to uncover your natural gifts:

• Reflect on your childhood: What activities did you naturally gravitate towards as a child? What did you enjoy doing before external pressures and expectations set in?
• Ask for feedback: Sometimes, others can see our gifts more clearly than we can. Ask trusted friends, family members, or colleagues what they think your strengths are.
• Notice what energizes you: Pay attention to the activities that leave you feeling energized rather than drained. These often point to your natural gifts.
• Consider what comes easily to you: What skills or abilities do you have that seem to come naturally, without much effort?

2. Align Your Life with Your Gifts

Once you've identified your natural gifts, the next step is to align your life more closely with them. This doesn't necessarily mean making drastic changes overnight, but rather gradually shifting your focus and energy towards activities that utilize your gifts.

• Incorporate your gifts into your work: Look for ways to use your natural talents in your current job, or consider a career change that aligns more closely with your gifts.
• Pursue hobbies that showcase your gifts: Use your free time to engage in activities that allow your natural abilities to shine.
• Volunteer or freelance: Find opportunities to use your gifts in service of others or as a side hustle.

3. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness is a powerful tool for living deliberately and tuning into what you truly want. By being present in the moment, you can more easily recognize when you're forcing things and when you're in flow.

• Start a meditation practice: Even just 5-10 minutes a day can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings.
• Practice body awareness: Regularly check in with your body. How does it feel when you're forcing something versus when you're in flow?
• Use mindfulness in daily activities: Bring full attention to routine tasks like eating, walking, or brushing your teeth.

4. Cultivate Self-Trust

Embracing your natural gifts requires trusting yourself and your intuition. Here are some ways to build self-trust:

• Keep promises to yourself: Start small and follow through on commitments you make to yourself.
• Listen to your intuition: Pay attention to your gut feelings and honor them.
• Celebrate your successes: Acknowledge when things go well because of your choices or actions.
• Learn from mistakes: Instead of beating yourself up over mistakes, view them as learning opportunities.

5. Let Go of Comparison

Comparison is often what drives us to force ourselves into molds that don't fit. To truly embrace your natural gifts, you need to let go of comparing yourself to others.

• Focus on your own journey: Remember that everyone's path is unique.
• Practice gratitude: Regularly acknowledge and appreciate your own gifts and progress.
• Limit social media: If social media triggers comparison, consider reducing your usage or curating your feed more carefully.
• Celebrate others' successes: Instead of feeling threatened by others' achievements, genuinely celebrate them. This abundance mindset can help you feel more secure in your own gifts.

6. Embrace Continuous Learning

While it's important to focus on your natural gifts, remember that skills can be developed and improved over time. Embrace a growth mindset and continuous learning:

• Invest in your strengths: Look for opportunities to further develop your natural talents.
• Stay curious: Maintain an open mind and a willingness to learn new things.
• Seek constructive feedback: Use feedback as a tool for growth rather than criticism.
• Set learning goals: Regularly set goals for developing your skills and knowledge.

7. Create a Supportive Environment

Your environment plays a crucial role in your ability to embrace your natural gifts and live deliberately. Here's how to create a supportive environment:

• Surround yourself with supportive people: Spend time with those who encourage and believe in you.
• Optimize your physical space: Create a living and working environment that inspires you and supports your goals.
• Establish routines that support your goals: Design daily and weekly routines that allow time and space for using and developing your natural gifts.
• Limit exposure to negativity: Be mindful of the media you consume and the conversations you engage in.

8. Practice Self-Compassion

Embracing your natural gifts and living deliberately is a journey, not a destination. Be kind to yourself along the way:

• Treat yourself with kindness: Speak to yourself as you would a good friend.
• Acknowledge your humanity: Remember that making mistakes and facing challenges is part of being human.
• Practice self-care: Prioritize activities that nourish your body, mind, and spirit.
• Celebrate small wins: Acknowledge and celebrate your progress, no matter how small.

9. Regularly Reassess and Adjust

As you grow and evolve, your understanding of your natural gifts and what you truly want may change. Make it a practice to regularly reassess and adjust your path:

• Schedule regular check-ins with yourself: Set aside time periodically to reflect on your journey and goals.
• Be willing to pivot: If something isn't working, be open to trying a different approach.
• Stay connected to your 'why': Regularly remind yourself of why embracing your natural gifts and living deliberately is important to you.
• Seek new challenges: As you master certain skills, look for new ways to stretch and grow.

Conclusion

Embracing your natural gifts and living deliberately is a lifelong journey of self-discovery and growth. It's about tuning into your authentic self, trusting your intuition, and aligning your life with what truly matters to you. Remember, this process is unique for everyone, and there's no one-size-fits-all approach.

As you move forward on this path, be patient with yourself. Change doesn't happen overnight, but with consistent effort and self-compassion, you can create a life that feels more authentic, fulfilling, and aligned with your true self.

By focusing less on forcing outcomes and more on flowing with your natural talents and inclinations, you open yourself up to a world of possibilities. You may find that opportunities you never imagined start presenting themselves, and that life becomes more enjoyable and less of a struggle.

Remember, you have within you everything you need to take the next step on your journey. Trust in your ability to create the reality you desire, one deliberate choice at a time. Your natural gifts are waiting to be fully expressed - embrace them, nurture them, and watch as they transform your life in beautiful and unexpected ways.

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